Loss or lack of desire can occur for many reasons both for men and women. It can occur on its own or alongside other sexual or relationship issues. For most people, they first notice that they become less likely to want to have sex or respond to their partners sexual advances. This can leave the partner feeling rejected and the person experience a reduction in their sexual desire feeling pressurised to have sex. Both these things can lead couples to attempting any form of sexual intimacy less and less and in some cases leading to no sexual contact at all. This can also affect peoples ability to show non sexual physical affection for fear of their partner thinking they want sex.
Some of the reasons for experiencing reduced or loss of desire can include: depression or medication for mental health conditions; high levels of stress or anxiety which may be due to work or family situations; fatigue due to overwork, illness, lack of sleep or being new parents; relationship issues which have resulted in a person feeling hurt, resentful or distant from their partner; pain or discomfort during sex either across the body or affecting the genitals or fear of failure during sex which may be due to another sexual issue that has not been treated.
Other sexual difficulties which can occur alongside loss of desire are: dyspareunia (painful penetration), vaginismus (inability to have penetrative sex), vestibulitus or vulvodynia (pain associated with the external genitalia), erectile disorder, premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation, sex addiction.
Morency Therapy provide loss of desire counselling for South Birmingham and Worcestershire, including Alvechurch, Barnt Green, Bromsgrove and Redditch.