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Great! Now that I have your attention, I am delighted to introduce our consultant Valerie Northcote.
Val is a Psychosexual and Relationship Expert who gives clients the opportunity to discuss and resolve problems that can cause conflict or unhappiness in relationships.
People that suffer from a sexual problem, a relationship problem or both, are not alone. At least 40 – 60% of all couples struggle with a sexual problem at some time or other during the course of their relationship. Sexual problems can occur in all types of relationships; heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or bisexual.
Val says, ‘Unfortunately fear and embarrassment often stop people from asking for help with difficulties such as sexual dysfunction. Some clients need support to begin talking about issues such as lack of desire or libido, impotence, vagi nismus , p remature e jaculation , delayed e jaculation and i ntimacy p roblems . I provide a comfortable , confidential and supportive environment at Morency where clients can safely face and overcome their issues. Many therapist s avoid asking questions relating to sex, but sex is a normal part of intimate relationships and often needs to be address and not treated as a taboo subject.‘
Reasons to consider Couples Counselling
When a relationship breaks down, ending the relationship may be necessary and the healthiest choice for some but others may wish to try to salvage whatever is left of the relationship. When couples encounter problems or issues, they may wonder when it is appropriate to seek counselling, here are 7 good reasons to contact a relationship specialist:
Communication has become negative. Once communication has deteriorated, often it is hard to get it going back in the right direction. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation.
When one or both partners consider or have had an affair. Recovering from an affair is not impossible, but it takes a lot of work. There is no magic formula for recovering from an affair. But if both individuals are committed to the therapy process and are being honest, then a relationship may be salvaged.
When the couple seems to be “just occupying the same space.” When couples become more like roommates than part of an intimate relationship they may need help to sort out what is missing and how to get it back.
When the partners do not know how to resolve their differences. Couples may be aware of the discord but unsure how to fix it.
When one partner begins to act out on negative feelings. Negative feelings such as resentment or disappointment can turn into hurtful, sometimes harmful behaviours. Sometimes when one person feels hurt in a relationship they can want their partner to feel equally hurt, which is counterproductive. A skilled clinician can help couples sort out negative feelings and find better ways to express them.
When the only resolution appears to be separation. When a couple disagrees or argues, a break often is very helpful, but when a timeout turns into an overnight stay away from home or eventually leads to a temporary separation, this may indicate a need for counselling.
When a couple is staying together for the sake of the children. If a couple feels it is wise to stay together for the sake of the children, it may help to involve an objective third party. Children are generally very intuitive and intelligent. No matter how couples may think they are able to fake their happiness, most children are able to tell.
All relationships are not salvageable. In the process of relationship counselling, some couples may discover it is healthier for them to be apart. However, for those relationships that can be salvaged, and for those couples willing to commit to the process, counselling may be able to remind them why they fell in love and keep them that way.
Thank you for considering Morency Therapy as the best team to support the mental health of your patients. It continues to be our privilege to provide psychological support to local people.
Dr Julie Hannan
Clinical Director & Chartered Counselling Psychologist
Morency Therapy, The Mill, Radford Road, Alvechurch, Birmingham B48 7LD
Opening Hours
Monday-Friday: 08:30am-8:00pm
Saturday& Sunday: Closed
Tel: 07530 854530 www.morency.co.uk enquiries@morency.co.uk/morency-rooms