Morency Blog Articles

Developing a growth mindset

What is a growth mindset?

Growth mindset was briefly mentioned in our previous blogs on compassion fatigue and resilience. Developing compassion for yourself and others includes the arts of forgiveness, growth mindedness and gratitude.

The terms growth mindset and fixed mindset were originally coined by Carl Dweck during the 1980’s (Dweck, 1986). A ‘fixed’ mindset is when somebody hgrowth mindsetas a fixed belief about their abilities. It can be either positively or negatively fixed, for example, someone might think ‘I’m good at cooking!’ or ‘I’m bad at maths’. The problem with these mindset statements is that if someone thinks they are naturally good or bad at something they are unlikely to try hard at it.

Alternatively, a ‘growth’ mindset links effort, not ingrained ability, to success. People with a growth mindset are likely to increase the effort they put in to achieve success. Most people have a mixture of growth and fixed mindsets for different activities.

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Could your IBS be related to anxiety?

What is IBS?

IBS or Irritable Bowel Syndrome is common gastrointestinal disorder affecting approximately 10-20% of the UK population at some point in our lives. The cause of IBS is not well known, and it is likely to be caused by multiple factors including physical and psychological symptoms. Symptoms of IBS include:

  • Cramps and pain in your stomach
  • Constipation
  • Diarrhoea
  • Bloating and swelling in your stomach
  • Gas or excessive wind
  • An urgent need to go to the toilet

Most people find that their IBS symptoms vary from day to day and are worse after eating.

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Beating loneliness and building new relationships

Loneliness is a common problem within the UK and not one limited to older people. The Campaign to End Loneliness reports that at least half of adults aged 52 or over who have been widowed, divorced or are in ill health report feeling lonely. Other factors throughout our lifespan can contribute to loneliness such as children starting school or leaving home, relocating or being on a break from work due to parental leave or illness. For other people, work or household chores can be the reason for social isolation and loneliness (Enright, 2018). Friendships and social interactions are important and loneliness can have a significant impact upon emotional wellbeing.

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Emotional abuse

What is emotional abuse?

Emotional abuse is a persistent attempt to control another person using emotional reactions. The emotional abuser may see themselves as being insecure or as protecting their victim. They may not know that they are being abusive. Emotional abuse is not the occasional argument between partners, a difficult break-up or something once said that unintentionally hurt another person. Emotional abuse can occur between any two (or more) people, regardless of gender, including children, work colleagues, friends and family. This blog focuses upon emotional abuse within romantic or family relationships while our previous blog on bullying discusses similar experiences in the workplace or school. Emotional abuse can include, but is not limited to:

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Coping with bullying in adults and children

What is bullying?

Bullying is often considered a problem limited to childhood, yet adulthood bullying is also common. Bullying is an extremely painful to experience as is knowing that your child is being bullied.

It is important to note what bullying is as the term can sometimes be used for behaviours that, while unpleasant, are not true bullying. Such behaviours include occasional ‘micky taking’ or work / school based ‘jokes’. Alternatively, true bullying is:

  • Methodical targeting of the victim
  • Using intimidation
  • Attempting to undermine and degrade
  • Repeated
  • Using an imbalance of power, which can come from: popularity, managerial power, physical power or access to information about the victim

Bullying can be exclusively online as well as physical, verbal or passive-aggressive.

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How to boost your workplace resilience

What is resilience?

Work is a large part of most people’s lives and frequently one of the most stressful. Our previous blogs on workplace mental health and compassion fatigue have highlighted the epidemic of workplace stress. Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from stress, failures and set-backs and is an essential part of coping with the demands of the modern workplace. Resilience is made up of work-related behaviours, attitudes and the support systems in place. Resilience in the workplace can be developed by learning new skills, however, it is also important to note that resilience only goes so far: it is also important to address the stressors at work, including a lack of managerial support, poor facilities or an unmanageable workload. Assertiveness skills may be important to address these issues and can be developed during therapy sessions at Morency.

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Are you experiencing compassion fatigue?

What is compassion fatigue?

Health and social care professionals experience suffering and trauma vicariously as they interact with patients and other professionals almost continuously throughout the working day. In addition, the people who are drawn to such job roles may be the type of people who take on the nurturing and caring roles within their own family and friendship groups.

Eventually this need to be compassionate and empathetic can get to be too much. Compassion fatigue is the burnout experienced when the continuous need for compassion can no longer be met. By continuously focusing on the needs of others, your own needs get pushed aside, until suddenly they can be ignored no longer. Signs of compassion fatigue include:

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How to find the therapeutic model that works for you

What are therapeutic models?

Therapeutic models are different therapy types which help guide therapists in how to best work with clients. Therapeutic models develop when therapists write guidelines based on ways of working they have found to be effective. These guidelines are then researched and formalised and become therapeutic models. There are many different therapeutic models which vary based on the techniques learnt, who the client is for example an individual, family or couple, how much therapeutic discussion focuses on past experiences or present concerns and how important the therapeutic relationship is seen as.

Some therapeutic models work specifically with a certain type of difficulty while others work with client distress in general. For example, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is often ‘model-specific’ meaning that there are guidelines for therapists working with clients with different difficulties, for instance depression or social anxiety. This way of working can be very helpful for some people, however, as discussed in our previous blog on the disadvantages of CBT it does not work for everyone.

Other examples of therapeutic models include Transactional Analysis, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Schema Therapy all our which are utilized, when appropriate, at Morency. Many skilled therapists will also integrate models to ensure their approach suits the specific client.

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The importance of a strong therapeutic relationship

What is the therapeutic relationship?

The therapeutic relationship, sometimes called the therapeutic alliance or working alliance, is the relationship between therapist and client. It includes the client’s confidence in their therapist and the strength of the relationship between them. The therapeutic relationship is sometimes broken down into how aligned the therapist and client are in terms of their goals, the therapeutic tasks and the strength of their bond (Bordin, 1994). Research suggests that there is an association between a positive therapeutic relationship and good outcomes for the client (Howgego et al., 2003).

Why is the therapeutic relationship important?

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What to do when CBT doesn’t work

What is CBT and when is it useful?What is CBT and when is it useful?

CBT stands for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It is the most commonly available therapy available in the UK and aims to improve the lives of people with common mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. To do this CBT therapists help clients to challenge their cognition’s (thoughts) and change their behaviours. Many people find this to be a useful model as it is brief, goal focused and has strong scientific support.

Why CBT may not have worked for you

CBT is an effective approach for many people, however, this does not automatically mean it is the right fit for you. Reasons why CBT may not work include:

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